I'm sure it's awful for most of us every time we're broken up with. Since there are many ways to do it (none great) there are things you can do to make it respectful and a little easier to cope with. Show respect for the other person and yourself and break-up face to face. Don't be fearful of doing the break-up while looking that person in the eye. There's nothing worse than falling apart with total strangers watching you. Don't break up in a public place; pick a mutually comfortable spot with very few other people around.
Keep the meeting short because a long meal could be too much to endure with tears and anger overcoming the other person. Every one is better off with a quick break-up date. Don't say the following: "It's not you, it's me" and "I love you, but I'm not in love with you.
" Avoid the clich. White lies are OK so recognize when it's proper to save that other person's feelings. Now is not the time to pick him or her apart with all the little things that drive you crazy (like movie preferences and eating habits). Stick to the real reason the relationship is ending.
Avoid analogies and don't compare the other person to cars, food, ex's, vacations, and so on. Just say "I think we'd both be happier with someone else" or "I don't see this going anywhere." Going your separate ways really is best. You can be done after you call once.
Say hello and that you're sorry, but no more. Dragging out a break-up might give the other person hope for reconciliation when there is none.
About the Author: Sara Musfeldt's website DatingTales.net has many dating stories, and she also provides an guide to online dating with lots of online dating tips.
